I love that this shows both sides, how society is ingrained to see women as baby-makers and men as walking wallets who’s only worth is if they make good cash. Both are equally demeaning and limiting in different ways.
You are NOT a “big girl fetish” or BBW. You’re an incredible soul wrapped in a frame that society has for years tried to belittle, but you’re much more beautiful and too strong for that. You’re not ugly. No! You’re not some dark secret. No! The only way you’re subjected to that foolishness is if you allow your mind to think so negatively. However, you’re a rose and the right man will smell of your sweet essence and cherish it forever. So what if you aren’t a size 2 or 10. SO WHAT if people have their opinions. SO WHAT if you had boys in the past make a big deal about your weight, don’t you dare see yourself as less than what you are: AMAZING.
Your full figure is just your mark of beauty. Your heart, mind, and spirit is what shines so much brighter!
Congrats to all of my curve sisters! Showcase that love that people said you didn’t deserve. Fuck em! You deserve that and more!
Plus size black women need to continue to see more images of women who look like them being loved. Representation is important for all types of black women.
I have hope
Shallow people who either hate or fetish certain ethnicities and sizes really need to choke like who cares if she’s fat somebody fucking loves you and that’s not as easy as people make it seem.
1. She will bring incredible positivity to your life.
She loves you, she loves the world, and this love fills her every cell and bone and muscle and curve. Her love shines through her normal, everyday existence and it will be so bright and positive that every single day you will be encouraged.
2. She will get you over any past relationship, hurt, or trust issue.
She loves you too much for you to be thinking of any other female. She’s the one whose presence unintentionally demands your attention. She distracts you with her mind, with her happiness, with her smile. She will love you so deeply that any past scars and any past pain will fade. You will forget the brokenness, the bad relationships of your past and with her, learn to love again.
3. She will show you what love really feels like.
Not the half-love you’ve known. Not the love that fades when times get tough, or when someone new comes along. Instead, she will love you consistently, patiently, willingly, and fearlessly through the ups and downs. She won’t pull away. She won’t run. She will love you in a way that fills the empty spaces of your life and makes you a more whole, more complete version of yourself.
4. She will never let you feel empty.
She will continually fill you with her love—on bad days, on tough mornings, after incredible loss, during the most difficult times. With her, you will never feel unsatisfied, never feel lonely. She will be all in, and more.
5. She will teach you forgiveness.
She loves the world and keeps loving the world, even when she sees its brokenness. She will forgive the evils done to her, and in her example, she will teach you. She will show you how to release your grip on the tiny, painful pieces you cannot control. She will show you how to pull the hurt from your bones and toss it into the wind. With her, you will learn to heal, you will learn to let go, and you will learn how freeing this process is.
6. She will be fiercely loyal to you.
A girl that loves ‘too much’ will never run out of love for you. She will value you, so much so that she would never do anything to hurt you. She may love the world, but that is not the love she shares with you—that love is sacred.
7. She’ll open your heart to emotions.
She is emotional. She has feelings, and she’s not scared of being open and honest about them. She is the type of girl who will peel back your layers and expose the parts of you that you try to keep hidden. She will show you the raw, unedited version of herself and in turn, you will do the same, learning to love in the realist, most beautiful way.
8. She’s going to fight with you and more importantly, for you.
Because she loves you, she will fight with you. She will argue, she will challenge you, she will push you, and she will drive you crazy. But this is because she cares about you. She cares enough to go through hell together, just to come out on the other side even closer, even stronger. And she will fight for you. She will be your partner, your ride-or-die, your other half, fighting against the world for your love.
9. She will always choose to work through problems rather than walk away.
Her love is too much, but that doesn’t mean your relationship will be perfect. You will have problems, but she will always choose to talk, to hash things out, to compromise, to work through the gritty stuff. She won’t pack her bags and walk the second things get hard; she loves you, so she’s all in.
10. She’ll love your darkest places.
The unforgiveable places. The places and memories and regrets and thoughts you keep hidden in the shadowy corners of your mind—she will love those. Her love will be the light that breaks through that darkness, cleans the cobwebs from what you’ve shoved away and tried to forget. She will love you and all that you come with—your past, your insecurities, your fears, and your evils.
but of all the rappers we can call out for misognynoir why are we choosing Kendrick and Cole to call out first? OUT OF ALL THE PROBLEMATIC PPL IN HIP HOP? Someone pls explain.
Because they’re held to a higher standard.
Cuz they position themselves like they about some shit
Like honestly Future ain’t shit but he’s not calling himself a conscious brotha trying to uplift our people. I like Kendrick and Cole but if they’re gonna position themselves as conscious artists and know that people are looking at them that way then they should be making the effort to get rid of all oppressive attitudes and mindsets, not just antiblackness and how it affects black men.
But like why the fuck do people expect people to perfect their so called version of consciousness and reality in a specific time frame. Consciousness is about growth. Why the fuck aren’t Black people allowed to fucking grow in their quest to achieve self-love and simultaneously help those trying to achieve self-love and self-acceptance. Call out and tell them how to be better but don’t seat here and act all and mighty because they haven’t come to where you think you at. Fuck at least they trying. J/Cole and Kendrick stay uplifting Black women, more than most of these rappers. Ya’ll the type of people that will make Black Teens conscious on how they choose to portray their-selves because you just you may claim you want diversified Black experience, but it seems that you already have a template on how and when Black people should achieve consciousness.
Because people just want to complain about anything and everything. If Beyonce hadn’t put out her song, no one would be saying shit and trying to compare them.
y'all niggas hate black women yourself so who you to talk? Lmao.
black men in entertainment dont respect black women period
and yes im gonna generalize here because its a majority of them
and since society follows these celebrities, they easily get fed this way of thought and thinks its the thing to do
Truthfully… I’m not here for none of the bullshit… That whole video is problematic and I’m just like ewww to the whole shit….
Centering her light skinned self in a sea of dark skinned black girls…
Centering her light skinned daughter between two dark skinned Black girls…. (which now you NIGGAS are claiming are her own personal Michelle and Kelly)… as if they’re not human individuals with agency….I’m sure I don’t have to say how problematic that shit is…
Just CENTERING herself in a struggle shes NEVER experienced… Being hated for being phenotypically Black… Like she’s never had a wide nose and we haven’t seen her natural hair since she was in Girls Time…
The fact that her DAUGHTER has been attacked is the ONLY reason besides profiting from Black pain that she had to speak on the hate of Black features….
Like the shit is so disgusting… She hasn’t ever dealt with hatred of Black features on a personal level because she’s always been the light skinned skinny chick…
The epitome of European beauty standards for Black women… So her claiming to love her MAN’S negro nose and her BABIES natural hair don’t mean shit to me…
If that shit makes you love yourself then more power to you, but that shit makes you look WEAK to me….
And police brutality? C'mon bruh… Like NEVER. She was raised in the suburbs with rich parents…. like…. this struggle has never been hers…
Then to top it off she exploits Hurricain Katrina and uses a DEAD Messy Mya to self indulge in how she’s “back by popular demand”..??? Like where is HIS ESTATE CHECK????
But y'all don’t want me to point this shit out because “it’s Beyoncé”….
Fuck that.. ALL ART IS UP FOR CRITIQUE… And I will say my piece.
So hell nawww… This video and song wasn’t for Black girls… Hell especially when shes claiming…(I’m Black but not Black like y'all Negros cause my Mama Creole)… Like fuck outta here…
It was for her, her man and her child and all them damn coins she’s gonna collect from you sad negros who can’t love yourselves until Beyoncé says so….
Okay girl, hold tf up with that..
1) Maybe she’s ‘centered’ because it’s.. her music video. Like, it’s not that tough to figure out.. It’s a music video.. she’s going to be the focus.. And to see it as her centering herself in a sea of dark skinned girls instead of her showing solidarity with the black girls who usually get the least shine in everything, putting them as the main figures in her music video, that read is on you.
What did you want her to do? Magically become dark skinned? Use only light skinned dancers? She put dark skinned girls as front and foremost as possible in this video.
2) Yes she’s never personally experienced a lot of the things in the video. So the fuck what. I’ve never personally been beaten by the police. I guess I should go delete all my posts about police brutality? She’s a black woman, she’s part of our community, she’s putting a spotlight on the issues of our shared community.
If anything, her going out of her way to focus on the struggles of other black people speaks to her character. That’s black solidarity. She could have just made a Taylor Swift album and collected her millions, but she didn’t. But you stay pressed I guess.
3) Who tf are you to say that the only reason she cares about black features is her daughter? Check your ego.
4) Yes she fits into the Eurocentric beauty standards for black women. So.. she’s not able to see how darker women of her race are treated? She’s not able to see colorism and have an opinion on it? She’s not able to have empathy for people of her own race? Why, exactly?
5) You can argue that she has ‘exploited’ Katrina. But in my opinion, she’s put a spotlight back on an issue that is STILL going on but that people in the area can’t even get their own politicians to address or acknowledge.
On top of that she’s quietly given $7 million over the years to the Knowles-Temenos Place Apartments in her hometown of Houston, in response to the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. But again, stay pressed.
6) Yes she used a clip of Messy Mya who was tragically murdered in 2010. Again, for you to see this as exploitation instead of an honoring and a remembrance (To put the clip at the start of the new video of her lead single of her first album in 3 years, the title single of her tour) speaks of your character.
And I’m 1000000% sure his estate was compensated. Why are you assuming otherwise? Do you even know how video copyright works?
And the other voice in the video, Big Freedia said “It was one of the most amazing experiences of my life and I was beyond honored to work with the original Queen B"
7) Why are you assuming she’s saying she’s not black by acknowledging her Creole heritage. It’s a distinct ethnic group within the African diaspora. What’s wrong with her talking about her roots, exactly? How can you claim she’s trying to distance herself from blackness when she made literally the blackest music video in years.
Honestly, I find it amazing how you can turn a video that celebrates blackness of all shades, of all classes, of all ages, past and present, that’s an affirmation of our heritage, our cultures, our lives, and STILL find shit to talk about it.
It’s incredible, really.
And how you gunna call beyonce out for not having natural hair when you got that brazilian wavy sewed on top of your scalp??
My mans….
I know she’s not serious.
Na, can’t be.
He read her her rights
😂tried it.
NIGGA LMFAO
Ha.
A lot of valid points. And OP never claimed she herself wore natural hair she was just commenting on a discrepancy between the claim and the evidence, so cut the personal attack.
